Ohhhhh healing. We are all trying our best, but man, without learning the skills we need to become better, life can stay quite challenging within our relationships. We all have healing to do. It takes willingness, honesty, vulnerability, practice and patience (with ourselves and others).

You’ve heard the quote, ‘believe you can and you’re halfway there.’ - Theodore Roosevelt.

This picture hangs in my bathroom and has for years!

I like this combination:

VISION + BELIEF = MANIFESTATION

Today's topic is about ‘you doing you.’

One thing I’m finding is that I really do beat to my own drum. I know you do also. And it’s important to own it. Especially when someone gives their 2 cents about who you are. Haha.

Think about your life as if it had many levels (floors). Depending on your floor, the perspective (views) change the higher you go. This is what I see as evolution and growth.

So how do you move from one floor to the next? You have to learn the lessons that the floor you're currently on provides. The higher you go, the better the view and the quieter it gets! So that’s a pretty good reason.

I’m trying to think about what makes me angry. Or rather, how I handle it. And how I ‘should’ handle it. When I think about my anger, it’s rare and it’s typically in a romantic relationship that I’m triggered (I know my biggest life lessons are in this arena).

How are you doing in life? Let’s say there are 3 buckets: Would you say, you are content, satisfied or fulfilled? (And as the great Tony Robbins has said, “Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.”) The next question would be, is this where you want to be? And what is it going to take to move from one bucket to the next?

Challenges in forgiveness arise when we think someone should change so we can feel better. But this is exactly when we lose our power. That’s what feels terrible.

Also, we fear that in forgiving, we are condoning the behavior, which is not the case. We forgive to free ourselves, not them. When we hold someone in contempt we are not releasing the energy that is keeping us stuck.

The soul is something we all have. We too often pay attention to our minds, but not necessarily our souls. When you feel alive, it’s from the soul. It’s like you have a whisper in your ear that says, yes - this is who you are!The soul is always there, yet we can ignore it. I believe there are things that happen in your life that represent the soul trying to call you home to it. But are you listening? Here’s some things that might be happening:

So often, we are on our treadmills of life, living mostly unconscious (95%) and in our comfort zones. Once in a while (like today maybe), stop and ask yourself why am I doing what I’m doing? The answers may surprise you. And when you get really honest with yourself you might uncover some 'not so great' reasons, along with some great ones that’ll keep you moving on.

I hear the term ‘numb’ a lot these days in my learning. I also see people very much numbed out or numbing out, as it seems. There are various reasons why people end up numb. It begins as a coping mechanism of protection and weeks, months or years later we have forgotten how to feel.

Ways we numb can be (in excess of) alcohol, sleep, video games, Netflix, shopping, procrastination, drugs etc. Pick your poison.

I believe there is a direct link between happiness and doing what you love. Now, of course that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are being paid for what you love, but the question is, do you at least have it in your life? Here’s a question I like to ask people - If we all got paid the same amount of money per year, what would you choose to do for work? It’s interesting how many people stumble on this.

I write to you each week because it’s a part of who I am. I love to care and share. It’s also because it keeps me motivated to do my own spiritual work every day so I can show up and stay consistent in receiving the results this work provides me. That being said, there is so much information and distraction in the world today. So thank you for spending your time with me. 😍Many messages are similar but you will hear them differently from one person to the next. And then one day, you GET it. Your work is to decipher which messages are meant for you. The ones that resonate with your heart.

Our emotions are how we measure where we’re at. This is also measured energetically and vibrationally. So, the less energy you have or the less happy you are, the lower your vibration.

What I’ve found, is if you can just honor where you’re at, without thinking you need to be or feel something else, it will change in time.

The emotional scale is one tool I use to explain why you can’t jump from frustration, disappointment or anger straight up to joy. The vibration is too far apart. Good to know, right?!

Since we are dealing with all kinds of people in this world, we may not always easily see things the same way. Right? One accident and many different stories of how it happened.

We also didn’t learn effective communication, so unless you’ve done some of your own training, many simply lack the skills, which can cause a conflict to escalate very quickly when what you want is a resolution.

I don’t like the word hard. It implies struggle. I like the word interesting. It involves curiosity. And ohhhhhhh love is very interesting!!

Love takes time. It takes time to understand our own issues within love. Never mind the other person's issues. It’s what we all want, but it can be uncomfortable for sure.

I don’t remember where I heard this, but I love it. “I may not understand you but I’ll always come back.”

To have a deep, connective and intimate love, we have to at some point peel off our masks and unveil our truth. Because under it all, our hearts are beautiful. What’s not beautiful is blaming, defensiveness, perfectionism, stonewalling (ignoring).

If my needs of unconditional love were never met as a child, I’m in fear that they never will be (by someone else) and I think what I’ve learned is that they may not be.

I was listening to a Hay House seminar with Gregg Braden, as he explained the power of connecting to our heart. The heart is a bunch of times stronger than the head (I can’t remember the exact number).

If you ever experience stress, this is a quick 3 minute break that will ground you and help provide some QUICK relief. 

Big question - Who are you really? 

This is a question I ask myself often. We come from a culture, society and upbringing of being told who we should be. And generally the message is, we aren’t good enough and then we are marketed to ‘buy’ this or that and then we’ll fit in and feel better. 

Life can get messy. Life can also be exhilarating. And hopefully a hell of a lot more of the latter! 

There are no guarantees and everything changes. Amid the chaos of change, we question ourselves. It can be a great time to reevaluate. Why did this happen? What do I want? How can I feel good anyway when I didn't choose this? 

Regardless of the circumstance, I’ve come to accept and understand these challenges as a way that life provides an opportunity to go deeper. 

I’ve written to you about affirmations before (back in May), but since this is a daily practice I thought it would be OK for a friendly reminder. And of course I write what I’m learning, and I’ve been guided to reflect on my affirmations again for the start of this year.