A perspective on evolving

A girlfriend and I had a wonderful visit a few weeks back, and I keep referring to a conversation we had. It was about moving on, letting go and the ability to chill out, regardless of what is changing around you.

I know Carolyn Myss refers to this type of thinking also, and she has a similar analogy.

Think about your life as if it had many levels (floors). Depending on your floor, the perspective (views) change the higher you go. This is what I see as evolution and growth.

So how do you move from one floor to the next? You have to learn the lessons that the floor you're currently on provides. The higher you go, the better the view and the quieter it gets! So that’s a pretty good reason.

I’m sure you can relate to this when you or someone you know ‘outgrows’ someone/something. It’s very natural so no one should really be too offended when this happens. Realize we are all on our own individual journeys as we grow at different times, for various reasons because of what we need to learn.

What can happen, (I’ve experienced this first hand and have witnessed others going through this) is that when you learn a particular lesson and clean up a behavior, you get to move up to a new floor. On this new floor, you meet new friends, see new things and your life changes.

Of course you still visit the people you cared about on the floor you came from and even sometimes the very first floor you started on. What can be challenging in this is when you hear them talking about the exact same thing you just finished learning. You try to help them, based on what got you up to the next floor, but it doesn’t work.

How I like to look at this is, when I see someone acting the way I used to, I just realize they are on a different floor than me. I’ve just learned a lesson that they haven’t yet. And maybe they won’t. How would I know what they have come to learn and do in this lifetime? It’s really a practice of non judgment.

Now, if it’s frustrating for me to continue being around this person, then I may do less of that, especially because new doors have opened on this new floor. And that’s ok. Remember when one door closes another opens. And the same for them. Win win.

I also want to add that this is just a different floor. Not necessarily a better floor. You get to decide what is best for you. I hope you will move floors. Not only because you get a new view and new opportunities, but because staying in the same place can feel stale and boring.

Here’s your challenge:

• What is something you know you are close to learning from and doing better at?

• What is happening in your life that is time to move on from?

As Marianne Williamson says, don’t pretend to not know what you know. (Yes, read that again (and memorize) it)!

Most things in life come and go. Look back, see that truth, and know that things are always working out for you.

All my love,
K