Honestly, life isn’t always lived at 100% bliss.

On those days of mediocrity, have no reason or need to blame your circumstances. For all the reasons to work on yourself and to be successful and to create a life you love, there are days that you may feel like what the F*%#?? (WTF). And from my heart to yours - I get it and I’ve been there. And then something else happens.

A friend of mine just ended a relationship with someone who is not stable. When we discussed how she got here, and what her lesson was, she became very clear that her guidance system was on full alert but she pushed it away many times.

Here are some ways your guidance may be telling you to pay attention:

First, you have to define ‘all.’

What’s ‘all’ to me will be different than what yours is. But I think it’s what you naturally strive for. You want what you want. And that’s great! You can gauge where you are by noticing if you are feeling stress or joy.

When you are in joy, doesn’t it feel as if you have it all already?

Can you think of one big thing that you are constantly trying to get better at, or figure out? Oftentimes this is something we’ve been working on for a while, and you may find yourself saying, why am I still in this mess? Or dealing with this? I believe we are each given a few ‘big’ challenges in this lifetime that we are given to learn and get past.

Did you know there are 3 types of intelligence?

IQ - Intellectual intelligence

EQ - Emotional intelligence

SQ - Spiritual intelligence

The importance of knowing this is to understand we are complex beings and require integration of all 3 to perform at our best.

I know, I know this is such a cliche question… bear with me.

I’ve come to believe it has everything to do with your soul’s journey. And it isn’t always obvious. Some lucky ones come with obvious gifts, like the voice of an angel. Or a writer who knows they were born to write. Or knowing you are meant to be a mother or a father. But what if it’s even simpler than that? What if it’s not what we do, but how we feel? What if it’s just to live in joy? The purpose of life is the journey to figure out what you came here for. And I think it’s deeply personal.

You have wonderful people in your life who are kind to you. And you are kind to wonderful people. But today’s inSight is about how you can be kind to you.

Do you have compassion for yourself?

There are times when you just don’t do as good as you should, or could, and when you notice yourself in that situation, just be kind to yourself. Look at it and say, “you know, I’ll do better next time, and for now, good for me for noticing I could do better.”

First of all, you were taught to judge. To compare, to compete, to look/act a certain way and to be aware of how others are doing. This is your societal teaching, so you can take yourself off the hook. Wasn’t your fault.

But - living at your full potential means knowing we weren’t taught all of the skills necessary to live with peace, love, joy, comfort, acceptance and way less stress! So it’s up to you to change this bad habit - if you want to.

OK, so men actually want to provide for us girls, and want to make us happy. Now, we know that no one can actually make us happy - that’s an inside job. But they can make us happier. So when we aren’t happy they actually take it personally and feel like a bit of a failure. What we women could do (I will never should you!), is to move more into our ‘feminine energy’ and allow them to provide for us, and then we need to appreciate them.

They NEED appreciation. If this isn’t new information to you, let it be a good reminder.

You’ve heard me and many others say, that beliefs are just a thought you keep thinking. We think beliefs can’t be changed, or that this is just ‘the way I am.’ Last night in bed after a guided meditation on letting go of the past, I was in my glory of clear thoughts and utter relaxation. What came to my mind was a rope with a big tight knot in it. As I looked at the knot, it slowly began to unravel. What was left was just the rope. I instantly knew what this vision was telling me.

Hearing about your perspective is two-fold:

Knowing what you want to learn about can guide me to focus my inSight emails to your topics of interest

Creating programs on topics that YOU want, tells me there’s a need for it, and ensures I’m spending my time on areas that I can actually help you with.

Have you ever had days when you just didn’t feel right? You were off. Like not as good as you are used to, and not sure why. Of course you have. My setpoint is actually quite high so when I’m not feeling ‘high’ it’s really obvious. But here’s what I’ve noticed - here’s what is happening - A big shift is coming! It’s like you just figured something out. Like an awakening.

I’ve rarely been someone who wore my heart on my sleeve. But around my closest confidants I’d notice that when the right questions were asked, that struck a chord straight to my heart, I would feel an intense emotion which would bring tears to my eyes. What I’ve noticed over the years is that the moment the tears want to come is the moment of the real truth.

What do you do at the beginning of each year? Look back on the previous year - Think about today - Dream of the future? Too often we hold ourselves and others in the past, which is exactly what makes us say/feel that nothing ever changes! And it never will if this is where you hang out. A simple shift will do the trick.

I’m at my sisters for Christmas and my niece and nephew (9yrs) asked if they could help me write this one. I thought it would be nice to share with you, some of their thoughts about life. Meet Madison and Beckem.

I’m not sure exactly when this hit me, but I’m assuming in the last couple weeks since this last lockdown. I’ve hit lonely! And it wasn’t too long ago I said to a friend, I’m never lonely. “There’s always something I can do.” But what a difference between doing and feeling. Doing is what I was doing so that I didn’t have to feel my lonely.

Srikumar Rao shared:

We are all control freaks. And here’s what he says: You don’t have control, You never had control, You never will have control.

I would bet at this stage in your journey, you know what you’re good at and not so good at! This message is not about changing you. It’s about accepting you, right now, as you are. 

I know you love yourself and I also know you are your own worst critic. If we believe what we’ve been told, by society or well meaning people, instead of the loving voice inside of us, life can be tough.

Be accountable for where you are at. Without trying to figure out why you are here, or putting blame on you or anyone else, just sit with where you are at. 

The ‘purpose’ of life is a question I’m sure you’ve asked yourself at some point or another. What’s my purpose? Why am I here? All good questions. And over the years my purpose has changed and evolved. The definition and what I’m here for. So don’t ever make this deep question stress you out. 

We’ve been hurt (and will be again) and have old wounds from our life experiences that weren’t always our fault. No one should have hurt your precious heart. Yet, it happened. And we are left to sort it out, often without the skills required to heal, yet we expect this amazing life that we ‘deserve.’

I heard this statement and it really resonated with me. “Experiences don’t happen to us, they happen for us.”

What an interesting way to view your situation, right? It takes you from victim mode to curiosity and gets your power back.

Whether or not an experience in your life is good or bad, it allows you to step back and ask yourself some questions. I believe it’s a way for the universe to say, hey I’m with you, but you need to look at this. There is something you need to either appreciate, heal, look for what you need to learn or move on.