Your tears are your truth
I’ve rarely been someone who wore my heart on my sleeve. But around my closest confidants I’d notice that when the right questions were asked, that struck a chord straight to my heart, I would feel an intense emotion which would bring tears to my eyes.
In the right environment (for me, it was a safe place, with a safe person, usually my sister) I would allow myself to access the hurt parts of me to show up so I could feel it.
Other environments I would get the feeling, but I would push it down, allowing my pride to take over, so I could quickly move past it.
What I’ve noticed over the years is that the moment the tears want to come is the moment of the real truth.
Sometimes we don’t really know the real issue. Or we dance around it in conversations but don’t get to the emotion behind it.
When I was young I was taught to just 'be happy.' My amazing parents weren’t taught to deal with or talk about raw emotion so I wasn’t either. I’ve grown to allow myself the space to feel, regardless of who is in the room. (Some people make this easier to do than others).
If you are wondering how to know what really matters to you - or the real issue - pay attention to when you feel like crying. I guarantee you’ll come to the same conclusion that I did.
To this day, I know this to be true. When someone tears up in my presence I know that it’s super important to their heart.
I don’t cry a ton but when something wells up in me, now I know to really honor and look at it, because it’s important to me. I feel the uncomfort of sadness and open it up. In allowing myself to acknowledge it, I realize what needs attention and only then does it pass.
In deciding what meditation to do last night, I asked my heart what it needed. Instantly I was told I needed to surrender and trust. I found the absolute perfect 2. I also knew I needed to feel God. (I’m not a religious person, but it’s the only thing that resonated). Sure enough by the end of the first one I had tears sliding down my cheek in the best way possible. I needed to let go and let God. The moment the tears fell I knew I was exactly where I was supposed to be. And I was lighter.
So - pay attention to what brings tears to your eyes. That is your body trying to communicate with you.
Don’t be scared. When you get the feeling you want to cry, be glad. That’s where the meaning is. That’s your truth. That’s what means a lot to you. Don’t put it off. Feel it, own it, discover it, honor it. Then you will feel relief and know yourself better.
All my love,
Kristi 💖
