I think by now you know how passionate I am about you being in charge of YOU. The fact is, other people affect us, and you affect others. You walk into a room of 100 people and get 100 different perceptions of who they think you are (without much information). 

Since we are all wired for connection and belonging we naturally want people to like us. We also know, not everyone will. Just like you will connect with some, but not others. 

Here’s a twist on some of what I normally say.

“Instead of not caring what other people think about you, ask yourself - what will someone think of when they think of you.”

I heard Marianne Williamson define success as, “you go to bed at night knowing that somebody else’s life is better because you were in it that day.”

This means we all have the power to be successful.

Do you do what you say you’re going to do? How do you feel when you disappoint someone?

Have you ever had someone tell you that they would show up, and never did? How did that feel?

This is integrity. And how you treat others is what you can expect back.

I know for me, this is a super important value, so I am not only sensitive when people don’t live up to my standard, but I also have to allow others to be what they are without judgement.

I think all you can do is have the conversation.

I rise up to allow myself to be all that I was meant for and to follow the inner voice directing my callings. Then I can put my arms around those who want the same thing. So we can feel connected - to ourselves and to each other. That’s a world in which heaven is here on earth. 

The world of ‘I’ and competition is an old paradigm. We need to evolve to a world that is moving forward no matter what. The question is, will it destroy us or will we grow with and for it?

You are so unique!

And you are attracted to different things all the time. In this world we have so many choices! Diet, clothes, cars, books, beliefs, people, teachers, music. How awesome!

But with so many choices, we can become confused.

What resonates with you, is where you go. You are smart and don’t need to be told what to do. But definitely do something.

Only you know what you truly want. And why you are where you are. And that’s all you need to focus on. 

What other people think about it, let alone how they feel about it, is really none of your business. Yet… they let us know what they think. Sometimes we’ve asked, and often we haven’t! 

You see the issue? The challenge here is we all have our opinions. So we see what others do and we have something to say about it! And vice versa! 

If you believe, like I do, that you create your own reality, then you can stop feeling bad about what’s happening to others. (This is very different from caring and loving and supporting those who have found themselves in rough waters).

If you are the captain of your ship, then you must realize that everyone else has their own ship too. It’s true, some people allow others in their world to take their wheel and act as if they have no power. But don’t let that be you!

I had to share this with you. Marie Forleo interviewed the Brené Brown on trust and bravery. If you haven’t heard of Brené, I strongly recommend watching or reading some of her stuff. She is the queen of vulnerability and her info is based on sheer research data.  

She uses the BRAVING acronym to explain how to stay connected to yourself and others. There are 7 elements to trust - they are observable and measurable.

When you think about your emotions, so often they evolve out of your many different experiences. Good ones help you feel good, and the not so good can leave you feeling bad.

This is not to suggest pushing away your feelings, but to keep in mind, as James Redfield says, ‘where attention goes, energy flows.’

So in one part, definitely honor the feeling. The next part is to get off the topic (unless this is a good feeling - then milk it for every delicious morsel)!

Today I woke up and felt super connected to this world and knowing what I’ve been through, provides me with compassion to you. Because as I feel things, I know you do too. We are all so connected and live through the same high’s and low’s. Although at different times throughout our journey’s.

There can be times you feel alone. You have your own thoughts running through your mind that no one may ever know. Only you know what you’ve gone through and how your experiences truly affect your heart. And there are some things we may never share with another.

In the game of life, naturally you want to win.

You know how that feels. But I swear you learn more, grow more and evolve more in the losses than the gains (ok maybe not in the stock market 😓).

How do you handle your losses? This is all about character. Do you reflect and look at where you may have got it wrong? Do you add clarity to your list now that you’ve learned what you don’t want? Do you blame others? Do you feel sorry for yourself and spiral a while?

How much time do you take to make a choice? Do you think about the consequences it will have?

This inSight was inspired by one of my best teachers, Carolyn Myss.

Technology has taken out the time we may have taken to make our choices more wisely. Be aware of this. I’m suggesting that you take a little more time in the receiving, contemplating and responding cycle of your decisions.

You may be asking, why? It’s because all choices have consequences and you can’t hide them, and they are immediate.

I realize, there is a ton of information on this topic already, in a world that I believe is far too focused on our external image. I won’t give my two cents on diet and exercise often, but I figured I’d hit on this one anyway, because hey, health and wellness is an important topic. 

What I do works for me. Your work is to find out what works for you.

I just finished reading the book ‘Attached’ by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I was hesitant to read it because I dislike putting people in boxes. I believe we all have a little of everything in us.

I believe the purpose of a relationship is to provide a loving safe place where you are heard and understood. But this takes skill. In order for someone to hear you - you need the time to explain, and to be understood - they need to know your truth.

This blog is not about religion. 

I talk about the universe as a whole. Angels as a mystical idea and God as good. There is a force unknown that no one can explain, although many have tried and still are. 

Energy is everywhere and in everything. Nature is beautiful and works perfectly which allows me to know for sure that there is something bigger than us running this show. 

I’ve done my fair share of healing old wounds from childhood. Our caregivers did their best and now we get to do better. But there are times we need the truth from a parent - who really just wants the best for us. They don’t always deliver the message as gently as someone else would - but it’s a message nonetheless. And isn’t that a major role of a parent? No matter what our age, they get the right to tell us what we need to hear. It can be ruthless and direct, but hey, it’s not an easy job to raise a child.

Don’t you just love Netflix? And I’m sure like me, you’ve binged out a few times over… like just one more episode and you’ll head to bed? 😜 It got me thinking about the similarities between our lives and Netflix. So many genres, so many choices. What’s your mood? What do you pick? Where do you go? How do you feel about your life if it was being watched?

Whether you’re in an intimate relationship or not, this applies to all humans. We either get better where we’re at or we’re getting ready to be ready! Years ago while I was studying, I thought a good title of a book could be, “It begins with me, then you, and then the relationship.” Funny this title has never left me. We come together with our own individual beliefs and values. Our past and upbringing is what creates these combined with previous life experiences and hence we have a story. We are all unique and imperfect and yet we come together and believe things will just work out. We will find ‘the one’ who will see us and love us and we’ll be ok and accepted, once and for all. Haha. Isn’t that humorous?

A glorious part of my journey was when I finally realized that all the answers I was looking for were inside of me. It was only until I stopped looking outside of myself that I tapped into the true power I had within myself. Hence how I came up with my business name, Everything Begins Within. 💜

So I’ll just share some questions I've had to ask myself and maybe it'll help you to get to know yourself in some new ways:

Working towards what you want, is the exhilarating part. Think about how often you feel so good when you’ve worked hard at something and then received the result. But was it the actual result? Or could it be all the experiences you had along the way? I believe in order to really love something we have to believe we earned it. That’s where true value and appreciation come in. And this becomes our memories. Plus, before you know it, you’re on to the next project or task, all the while thinking it’s for the result you’re after.