Why venting doesn't work

When you think about your emotions, so often they evolve out of your many different experiences. Good ones help you feel good, and the not so good can leave you feeling bad. 

This is not to suggest pushing away your feelings, but to keep in mind, as James Redfield says, ‘where attention goes, energy flows.’

So in one part, definitely honor the feeling. The next part is to get off the topic (unless this is a good feeling - then milk it for every delicious morsel)!

I know you’ve heard ‘talk things out.’ And god knows women especially love to talk. Talk therapy works. And thank goodness for great friends that we can do this with. I’m currently working with men to provide a safe place for them to talk - isn’t it time? 👍

When you find yourself doing this, keep in mind though, what you are trying to achieve. It’s one thing to try to solve an issue and find a solution. It’s quite another to just complain or bitch. 

Sometimes we hear people say, ‘I just need to vent.’ Which is fine - just be aware that this causes momentum - often in the wrong direction. It’s like paddling upstream, and you won’t find joy in that. 

If you find yourself in this place and you feel bad, I suggest a shift in what you are thinking about. Move on to a topic that feels better. What are you grateful for? What is working well in your life? Meditate. Take a nap. You’ll find the issue either goes away on it’s own or a solution will come to you when you are no longer obsessing. 

Try also to shift your thoughts towards the outcome you desire - not where your current reality stands. 

If you want to ‘talk things out’, let me know! This is what I do! 😊

Sending love,

Kristi

Life Coach & Mentor