Parents can wound us, and help us
I’ve done my fair share of healing old wounds from childhood. Our caregivers did their best and now we get to do better. But there are times we need the truth from a parent - who really just wants the best for us.
They don’t always deliver the message as gently as someone else would - but it’s a message nonetheless. And isn’t that a major role of a parent?
No matter what our age, they get the right to tell us what we need to hear. It can be ruthless and direct, but hey, it’s not an easy job to raise a child.
Let’s let our parents off the hook today, and try to take the wisdom they are trying to convey to us. They want to direct us, and since they know us so well, let's give them some credit. I swear only a parent has the capacity to sometimes deliver their message without perfect tact or tone. It’s our job to heed their advice or reject it. But at least look at it.
My mom said something to me the other day. I paused and said you know, you’re right. And only you could say that to me. I was grateful I didn’t become defensive (that has taken a lot of work). I owned it, and knew I could do better. Yup, my mama can still be tough on me, but she’s doing her job. And, it’s necessary sometimes.
We may not love what they have to say, but it’s good to listen and to remember it’s only because they love us that they are sometimes hard on us.
Our parents have helped mould us into the people we are today. Let’s be grateful for that.
With love,
Kristi 💛
Life Coach & Mentor
