The book is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Agreement TWO: DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

Why do this? To gain freedom and live with an open heart.

“When you take something personally, there is a part of you that believes it.” Ouch.

This book I read years ago and still live by the principles. The book is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

I know you're busy and may not have time to read the whole book, so over the next 4 weeks I’ll summarize each one for ya!

Agreement ONE: BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

When I was about 19 and into my early 20’s, it seemed my dad was tough on me.

Here’s where we now choose to be honest and choose to show up as we are. Not perfect. Completely imperfect.

A mother affects a whole life and often more than just one at the same time. That’s power. What do you even do with that kind of power?

We have so many circuits running through our body: love, fear, panic, grief, lust, exploration, anger. It’s necessary and is our authentic nature. We will have a healthy response unless we’re not accepted.

Gabor’s question is, how can we be interrelated, connected and still be ourselves? Your authenticity will be sacrificed every time so you’ll be accepted. (This is what you did for survival, and leads to adaptation of the true self). You ‘adapt’ to fit in.

This has been the most challenging skill for me. It’s because our basic human instinct needs belonging and connection. What if me being me makes me unlovable?

You may look at this as a wish list, but I’m here to tell you it exists. But it requires openness and skill. Some have it, others don’t. But if you wish to aspire to it, I’m here to tell you that you are in for some fun in your near future!

A woman that can surrender definitely has a good man beside her.

A while back I watched a video and took rough notes from John Wineland, where he did a ‘Plea to Women’ from men. He works with men on intimacy, embodiment and purpose.

You’ve got to admit - all emotional hurt comes from your past.

That’s why to really heal you have to go back.

Not for long, but healing will allow you to move forward with anticipation without bringing yesterday’s pain to a future experience. Without healing, the pain doesn’t just go away. And that’s hard.

Want to reduce stress?

Want to rid yourself of past memories bombarding your mind?

Want to feel relaxed, in your body and be present to those you love?

What TRULY lies beneath your surface?

This share today is about energy. And how it relates to our heart energy.

What do you think about this perspective on the heart and healing?

During a heartbreak period your body protects you. You become ‘closed.’

Love - is a verb. Yet we ‘love’ for the feeling of it. Of course, it does produce a feeling, but it’s more than that.

As per last Saturday’s inSight this is the continuation. OK, so you have experienced the ‘state’ of the fairytale. You really know your person and you still love having sex with them.

This doesn’t mean they will be your ‘happily ever after.’ You know why? Because if you knew you’d have them forever, I fear you might get lazy.

There are lovers and there are friends. But after say 30, I would guess that most of your friends tend to be of the same sex. I’m asking you the universal and timeless question - can a guy and girl just be friends?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how people heal, deal with old trauma and tend to their personal challenges.

C O M P R O M I S E: doing something you don’t want to do.

What does it mean to you?

There’s a difference between being brutally honest and speaking your truth. The former can be abrupt and may lack compassion in your delivery. This will easily cause defensiveness in the other. I know this from experience. Heck, you probably do too by now. ;)