Hey there!
As per last Saturday’s inSight this is the continuation. OK, so you have experienced the ‘state’ of the fairytale. You really know your person and you still love having sex with them.
This doesn’t mean they will be your ‘happily ever after.’ You know why? Because if you knew you’d have them forever, I fear you might get lazy.
No more trying, or putting your best foot forward, being utterly kind and loving. Now, I said might. Maybe you did marry, yet you remain present and appreciate that nothing lasts forever, so you continue choosing each other.
You really know and like your person. You’re excited to keep learning more about them and you grow together so you stay connected and don’t fall apart. That’s awesome. Celebrate that.
Maybe you’re thinking about getting married. Well, that’s up to you. I personally have some concerns around marriage but who doesn’t have some fear about love? One of my favorite songs has the lyrics, ‘don’t fence me in.’
(Can’t remember who said this, maybe Esther Perel but, who would buy a car that works half the time)? ;)
Love is a gamble afterall. But, you can’t win if you don’t play. Don’t hate the player, hate the game. You get the picture. Haha. Love can hurt, but man it’s sure worth it if you ask me. Plus it’s our natural state to love and be loved.
Next week I’ll get into, what is love really?
PS. Realize the rules of today’s modern society have changed from what our parents did. Today we have so many choices and it can be confusing to know what is the best decision. Stay true to yourself, be honest and get to know what you really want to give and get out of your relationship. A great question I ask my clients is, what is the purpose of a romantic relationship for you? Discuss this with your partner.
All my love,
Kristi 💛
