Well hello there,
I consistently learn a lot about healing the past, being in the present and dreaming about my desired future.
It becomes glaringly obvious that I can’t do any of it without being vulnerable. Because without this skill I’m not able to be my true self.
This has been the most challenging one for me. It’s because our basic human instinct needs belonging and connection. What if me being me makes me unlovable?
The definition of vulnerable is being susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm. Of course we don’t want that! Sounds like a weak position to me!
But emotional vulnerability is the process of acknowledging your emotions, especially those that are uncomfortable or painful. Ok, now we’re getting somewhere.
The first step is to acknowledge how you’re feeling. Don’t brush it away or distract yourself from feeling.
Then, be curious. If you want, for the next week, notice when you feel like the real you. Who are you with, what are you doing? How does it feel?
Next week I’ll share more of what I’ve learned from Gabor Maté about becoming more authentic.
From what I can tell, the route back to our true selves takes trust of self and being vulnerable. First within you, and then with others. To be really seen requires courage because of the fear of not being loved.
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
― Brene Brown
All my love,
Kristi 💛
