We all have some sort of challenge going on. Life is full of them! My question is, what are you doing about it? A nice light question. Haha

No matter what challenge you find yourself in, it’s there for a reason. Ultimately to take you further, to learn a lesson or to grow into someone more.

Maybe it’s not a massive, obvious challenge, but a niggling thing that creeps into your mind. The small things, if left untreated can become the big problems later on.

I’ve had a thing with birds lately. From my balcony I watch them. They fly around from tree to tree and I wonder what makes them decide where to land? Some perch high in the trees, others go middle or stay low. And those sounds? What do they even mean?? Please pause - I had to look this up:

Source One:

The birds that you hear are mainly males. They are doing what male birds do best, protecting/claiming their territory and/or trying to attract a mate.

Haha I laughed out loud… even the birds… 😂

I know there is something you really want!

In chatting with my sweet sister the other day, the topic of getting results from what we want came up.

So last week was about not looking outside of yourself for happiness - which was all about not giving your power away.

Today is about wanting. It’s natural to want! You will ALWAYS want. And once you get what you want, you’ll want other things!

My great teacher Esther Hicks says, “The only reason we want anything is because we think we will feel better in the having of it.”

But what if what you want, hasn’t come - in a long time? Great question.

OK, I warned you last week - this one's longer! 😏

Have you ever heard yourself say, ‘well if you did ____ , then I would feel better.’

We think that if we get what we want (or deserve) through another then we’ll feel good. And we do - temporarily. I challenge you to feel good regardless of your circumstance.

The moment we rely on another to affect our state of being - we’ve lost our power.

Over the years I’ve learned so much from others and I often find myself quoting them or providing their examples. Which is totally fine, and cool to pass on, but I have to stop sometimes and ask, what do I actually think?

Example: Neale Donald Walsch was a great teacher of mine. He would explain, "We are not what we do. People run around and do do do… and end up just sitting around in a big pile of do-do." And I agree, that can definitely happen.

I think what I liked most about his reference was ‘we aren’t what we do.’ I was still quite young and hadn’t made any big career decisions, so that comment felt good to me. Even now though, it’s a good reminder. And I would add to that - we aren't what we do, it's who we are being in anything we do.

My last couple of days have been quiet. And I’ve been listening to my self-talk. Do you listen to yours?

Here’s what I noticed - When I have quiet time alone with my thoughts, I sometimes think about my outer world and wonder, since I am the creator of my life - is it as I desire it to be? There are some things still missing for sure, but here’s my point - when I focus on what I don’t have - I don’t feel good.

So instead, knowing and believing that life is always changing, I can really appreciate what I do have and love today. When I focus on that, it keeps me in my present moment and I feel better. Feeling gratitude actually has the ability to change my mood almost instantly.

Have you ever found yourself walking away from a conversation, only to visit it later in your mind and wonder why the heck you didn’t say what you were really feeling? I get it, I’ve done it too.

I believe much of our disempowerment comes from an inability to speak our truth. Often we are worried that if we do, we will hurt someone’s feelings or maybe they won’t like us. I know for me, it can be challenging to talk about my feelings. I wasn’t really taught how and I don’t ever want to come across as needy. I speak my truth most of the time, but man, to speak about what's in my heart and where I feel vulnerable… haha I’m still working on that!

With so much going on in the world right now, we can be in one of two places. LOVE or FEAR. Both are easy to get to - all that matters is where your thoughts are.

I call times like this, “in the meantime.” All this means is that your ‘normal’ or what you are used to, has taken a back seat. Or heck, maybe even thrown you out of the car and it’s a write off. It's the sweet spot after a change occurs and before the next change takes place.

I believe in all people and our power to have the best darn experience that life has to offer. I believe in the equality for all humans to have, be and do what they love. I believe people are good and the more we learn and grow, the better we become. And not for anyone else, but for ourselves. How can you enjoy the best of what YOU believe life has to offer?