Find the courage to speak your truth

Have you ever found yourself walking away from a conversation, only to visit it later in your mind and wonder why the heck you didn’t say what you were really feeling? I get it, I’ve done it too.

I believe much of our disempowerment comes from an inability to speak our truth. Often we are worried that if we do, we will hurt someone’s feelings or maybe they won’t like us. I know for me, it can be challenging to talk about my feelings. I wasn’t really taught how and I don’t ever want to come across as needy. I speak my truth most of the time, but man, to speak about what's in my heart and where I feel vulnerable… haha I’m still working on that!

It’s funny to me that we are sometimes afraid to express ourselves. Because think about this - the people we communicate with - they already like us!

I’ve found that anytime I am uncomfortable with a situation it’s because I didn’t show up fully, and for whatever reason I wasn’t comfortable speaking my truth. I have learned that when I speak my truth - with honesty, kindness and with an intention to connect and be seen as I really am, I allow others to do the same.

​​So when you speak your truth, my only suggestion is to be calm, kind and use ‘I’ language. It won’t do any good to just blast another with your opinions about them, that for sure will offend them.

It can definitely be a bit uncomfortable to speak your truth - but we need to be ok with this! This is how we grow. If we keep on doing the same things, we’ll just keep getting the same results. It might be a great opportunity to ask some questions. Maybe we misunderstood someone. Maybe we reacted, feeling hurt and defensive but it wasn’t our real truth. We can always go back and repair, but I suggest going within first. You can’t speak your truth without self awareness and some self reflection.

Our life experiences allow us to discover more about ourselves. Believe me, how someone else acts/talks/reacts, has only to do with them - not you. Find and own your part though. You are only responsible for you, not the way others choose to do their life.

Let me know if there is anywhere you are having a hard time speaking your truth. It does take some courage, but you got this!! And sometimes just talking it out with someone provides the clarity you need to take the first step.

All my love,

Kristi 👧