Using gratitude to feel good

My last couple of days have been quiet. And I’ve been listening to my self-talk. Do you listen to yours? 

Here’s what I noticed - When I have quiet time alone with my thoughts, I sometimes think about my outer world and wonder, since I am the creator of my life - is it as I desire it to be? There are some things still missing for sure, but here’s my point - when I focus on what I don’t have - I don’t feel good. 

So instead, knowing and believing that life is always changing, I can really appreciate what I do have and love today. When I focus on that, it keeps me in my present moment and I feel better. Feeling gratitude actually has the ability to change my mood almost instantly. 

Then I begin to think about all the good that is on the way and I begin to feel excited! I love the feeling of excited anticipation. And do you want to know how I know what’s ‘on the way?’ Because I visualize how I want my future to be. In my meditations, during my daydreams, as I drift off to sleep. I’m constantly dreaming about where I want to be and how it’s going to feel. Loving where I am, and excited for what’s to come.

So what I suggest is: take some time to think about or make a list of what you are grateful for (writing is more powerful than thinking just FYI). But dig a little deeper. Focus and feel and ask yourself why you are so grateful and how it makes you feel. 

My example:
‘Twas the night before my birthday and my phone started blowing up with all these great song links. My long time dear friend was clearly walking down memory lane about a trip we had gone on 8 years prior! He really took me back to remembering those great times in the Bahamas. Singing in a karaoke bar, small venue Brad Paisley concert, fishing off the boat and eating our catch on a fire we built on the beach, etc. Because connection and belonging are so important to me, it really made me appreciate the time we've had to build our friendship. The years have rolled on by, and although we don’t talk as much as we used to, I am thrilled to know that our friendship has stayed intact and we are connected, no matter what. 

So I challenge you to dig a little deeper on WHY you are grateful for things in your life. Instead of using vague words like I am grateful for my ‘friends,’ think about WHY and really feel it. You can learn a lot about yourself this way. Knowing what is important to you, brings a lot of clarity to your life and to your dreams.

Also, it warms my heart when people reach out to me. He’s miles away and I was on his mind. How sweet is that? 

Just one more idea for you, maybe ask yourself - how can I let someone know I thought about them today? Fill their heart maybe?

Anyway, have fun with this! 

All my love,

K 💗