When I experience a broken connection it affects my heart at a deep level. I’m not as light, happy or excited about anything.

Here’s the thing - some opportunities work out and some don’t. There will always be another opportunity, so don’t get discouraged.

There are so many unanswered questions in the beginning.

As per last Saturday’s inSight this is the continuation. OK, so you have experienced the ‘state’ of the fairytale. You really know your person and you still love having sex with them.

This doesn’t mean they will be your ‘happily ever after.’ You know why? Because if you knew you’d have them forever, I fear you might get lazy.

I just finished reading the book ‘Attached’ by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I was hesitant to read it because I dislike putting people in boxes. I believe we all have a little of everything in us.

I believe the purpose of a relationship is to provide a loving safe place where you are heard and understood. But this takes skill. In order for someone to hear you - you need the time to explain, and to be understood - they need to know your truth.

OK, so men actually want to provide for us girls, and want to make us happy. Now, we know that no one can actually make us happy - that’s an inside job. But they can make us happier. So when we aren’t happy they actually take it personally and feel like a bit of a failure. What we women could do (I will never should you!), is to move more into our ‘feminine energy’ and allow them to provide for us, and then we need to appreciate them.

They NEED appreciation. If this isn’t new information to you, let it be a good reminder.

I’m not sure exactly when this hit me, but I’m assuming in the last couple weeks since this last lockdown. I’ve hit lonely! And it wasn’t too long ago I said to a friend, I’m never lonely. “There’s always something I can do.” But what a difference between doing and feeling. Doing is what I was doing so that I didn’t have to feel my lonely.