Hello sweet soul,
🎵 “We all need… somebody… to lean on.” 🎵 You know that song!
OK, so life can be hard. It can also be wonderful.
How quick are you to pick up the phone when you are excited vs. sad?
I believe when you are in the lower level emotions (sadness, hurt, depressed, grief), time alone with yourself is crucial.
This is where you sort it out. I suggest you:
Feel it. Allow the emotion up and out. Own it. Honor it. Sit with it.
So often, we want to avoid feeling it. That’s why we numb and try to push it away. This creates DIS-ease, so be careful.
You will decide how long will be enough time to feel and sit with these emotions. (Depending on the event, some things definitely need more time). But there comes a time when you have to get back up.
When you are having a tough time getting back up, that’s when you call for support. But call someone who has the skills, otherwise you may end up just regurgitating it all over again.
In any challenging situation - it’s only meant for you to understand what it means to you. What did you learn about yourself?
Once you figure out how to handle tough times, you won’t fear anything. You will trust yourself to know what to do. This takes time to get good at it. Don’t worry, life will give you many tries at this.
If you feel you should be ‘over it’ yet still unsure on how to feel better, get some help and reach out for some support. We can’t get to greatness alone. Maybe you can, but that seems like a lonely way to the top. Plus people love to help. You are loved and it’s a gift to support you.
If you don’t know where to turn, I am definitely here for you. You are not alone, even though it can feel that way at times.
“No one escapes pain, fear, and suffering. Yet from pain can come wisdom, from fear can come courage, from suffering can come strength - if we have the virtue of resilience." — Eric Greitens
"Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit." — Napoleon Hill
"And hard times are good in their own way, too. Because the only way you can achieve true happiness is if you experience true sadness as well. It's all about light and shade. Balance." — Gabrielle Williams
All my love, in your happy and sad times.
Kristi 💛
