Giving love vs receiving love

So often we hear people say, “I just want to be loved for me.” Well I think you are actually.

I’m beginning to ask this question instead, ‘how am I giving love?’ I believe there’s actually more feelings generated in my body when I give love, than when I receive love. 

Think about this for a moment. How does your body feel when someone shows you love vs when you show love? Like gifts. They say it’s better to give a gift than to receive one. 🤔

If you’re anything like me, I have definitely repressed my love for fear of rejection or fear of being vulnerable. And this old way of being is not who I want to be. 

I know you feel love - for many things. Me too! But are we expressing our love? It can feel scary, but what if it also feels freeing? 

Have you ever walked away from someone and knew they never knew how you really felt? I’m sure no one out there would actually reject love. Because we all want it. Yes, we want it from the ‘right’ people, but I just want to feel. 

And maybe it’s not a feeling of love. Maybe it’s a feeling of excitement or attraction. Are you comfortable expressing your true feelings to someone special? I’m getting soooo much better at this! People can change! Haha

I’m thinking about my adorable 9 year old niece. Often when we play, she’ll just out of the blue give me a tight hug or squeeze my arm and say ‘auntie I just love you so much.’ Of course that fills my heart. But when my love surges for her, that feeling I get for her is what she must feel when squeezing me. It's the love I have for her that moves me.  

My point is - there is more power and feeling in my body when I feel for her. I love knowing she loves me, but I prefer to love her! So now, I’m getting less afraid to love others and express it. And not worried that they may not feel the same way. Maybe they do - but MY truth is what matters to me. I want your truth to matter to you too. 

So let’s go love a little more freely. Openly. Without an expectation. Plus, love heals things.

Let’s shift from what can I get, to what can I give? 

Happy lovin’ 💞

Kristi 

xoxo