Don’t take your past into your future

A girlfriend and I were out walking by the river the other day and of course one of our favorite topics came up 😍 - men!

In ending her ‘covid relationship’ she was explaining how she knew he wasn’t ‘the one’ from the beginning. It’s funny how you can sometimes know but not act on your intuition. Ever been there before? Me too!

As I listened to her explain what she really enjoyed about him and how truly grateful she was to have gained more clarity by the experience of it, I could see she felt OK with it all.  This is what we’re supposed to do. Take an experience without judgement and use it to propel you to another level. When you know what you don’t want, it makes knowing what you do want really obvious.

We got into some of her old patterns and triggers and she began planning her future based on having to ‘confront’ these issues with perhaps better communication or maybe being more selfish instead of giving so much next time. 

What became so evident to me, was I could see her setting up another flawed experience. Not that there are mistakes in our experiences - but she almost went right into focusing on how she could be better with the next guy given the same kinds of challenges (taking her past into the future). This is why we often find ourselves in the same situation, with just a different face or place.

At that moment I said, wait a minute! Why don’t you, instead of thinking about what might go wrong - imagine that who you want to attract is someone who already has the traits that are important to you!

We often don’t see the world as it is, we see the world as we are. 

So in the meantime, let’s practice you getting real good within yourself at the important things you want to attract in another. See, you can’t expect to attract a good communicator if you aren’t. When you inhabit the traits you desire in another, it is easier then to believe that it’s possible. 

No matter what it is you want - a new relationship or better health, life experience will provide you with clarity. And the time between wanting it and getting it is a great time to keep going within, loving you and learning as much as you can to get ready for what’s on the way to you!

If you are ever hung up and focused on what didn’t work - that is the energy you are in and more things like it will show up in your life. It’s the law! 

Shift into and focus on what you DO want and start getting excited! It’s on it’s way - I promise. 

Much love,
Kristi 💋

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