Are you doing the work to heal?

Written By Kristi Hiller

Hey there,

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how people heal, deal with old trauma and tend to their personal challenges. As a coach, my lens tends to favor working alongside someone. Also because I’ve had the blessing of having my mentor helping me to connect the dots over the years.

But when I think about how I’ve healed or deal with my own challenges, I’m alone. Doing inner work is better (funner, faster, easier) when you have a coach, therapist or mentor - for support, wisdom and guidance yes - but it’s on you.

There were many nights spent on my couch on Friday nights while my friends were at the bar. I was reading, journaling, researching and sorting myself out. My intuition said ‘stay in.’ I was sad and I didn’t know why. So I figured it out.

I just wanted to share this with you, to remind you how powerful you are. And to remind you that just because you might go to therapy, there is still a lot of work to be done outside of their office.

The books on your shelf aren’t helpful if not read. Even worse if they’ve been read and not applied. Then you’re just ‘the know it all’ without the results. (Ha, ok, maybe we’re all a little like that at times)!

I was just reflecting on how much time I’ve spent learning about life and myself, as I still continue to be better tomorrow than I am today. And heck - it’s taken a long time!! And we are never done.

So on your journey through life, be patient with yourself, but do some work. If you are keen enough to hire someone to walk with you on your path, your benefits will depend on how much you are doing in your own time. You know this.

And this time learning on your own - that’s where the special juice is! In getting to know yourself. Quietly, through a book or a song, or some journaling. That voice within, is always teaching you something if you listen for it. It’s a precious thing. You, my friend, are precious.

Here’s a video I did on YouTube if you are thinking about hiring someone for help.

https://youtu.be/YcZymuUHOYo

All my love, all the time.
💛 Kristi

Kristi Hiller

I am an energetic gal who is captivated by the human condition. I believe in exploring all life experiences to learn and grow. Throughout my 20+ years of studying and learning to love and accept myself - no matter what, I have come to realize that there is no ‘right’ path or way to experience life, other than head on, with accountability, a sense of humor and lightness, and a knowing that only I can create my own reality. And this is true for everyone. You create your own reality. Let me help you get to yours!

http://www.everythingbeginswithin.com
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