You aren't just where you came from

There’s a point in life where we have to disassociate from where we came from. We adopted roles that can stick with us that may no longer work. At a point in our adult life we aren’t what we might ‘think’ we are.

Stripping away all of our beliefs or at the very least questioning them is a great place to begin. Yes, our experiences affect who we’ve become, but it may not be who you are.

I know you have many responsibilities but you are the most important person in your life. If not, then you’re just in a ‘role.’

What’s happened to you is not who you are. At some point (and we are all at different stages of our journey) you have to stop playing the tapes of where you’ve been, who you’ve been and embrace the desire of who you really are.

You aren’t the family fixer/therapist
You aren’t the mediator
You aren’t the gossiper
You aren’t the money
You aren’t the baby
You aren’t the cheapest
You aren’t the most responsible
You aren’t the most irresponsible

Unless of course this pleases you and you enjoy the role.

Change is uncomfortable. The research shows we can go back to people who abuse us because that’s what we are used to even though we know it’s not right. (Sorry, kind of an extreme example).

You get to create an inner strength and awareness about who you are now. Who you want to be.

You just have to give yourself PERMISSION.

No one else can be you, and no one else can tell you what you should do.

Self inquiry time!

All my love and support,

Kristi Hiller 💕
Life Coach & Mentor