Hey there!
You’ve heard how when you die you go through a life review? I always thought it meant looking back and seeing what you were meant to learn and how each choice brought you to your next encounter. Did you learn what life was trying to teach you?
But recently I heard someone (can’t remember who) suggest that you look back to witness how you made other people feel and how your words/actions affected other lives.
It made me ponder. It reminded me of our power. Our ability to really affect another human's experience. Going back, can you even acknowledge that what you did might have really hurt or blessed another? Hard to really know, as sometimes we never realize if we’re not made aware of it by them.
So if this is true, how/who will you be from now on?
It reminds me that the good opinions of others are none of my business, but I can keep in mind how I make others feel. Big distinction there.
I think it’s good and important that people share with each other if they’ve been hurt. Sometimes people are unaware of how they may have affected you. If your people don’t know, they certainly can’t do better. This is the only way we can repair and heal together.
Also, if they’ve helped you in some way, let them know this too. It feels good to know if you’ve been a positive influence in someone's life.
I remember in high school a bunch of guys were making fun of a girl in class because she always had to wear skirts because of her religion. I hated it. I said "Guys, let her be." They stopped. Years later she came up to me in the bar (looking amazing in jeans) and thanked me. She said it meant so much to her that I would stand up to them on her behalf. No one had done that for her before. At the time I had no idea it meant anything to her, but since that night in the bar, I am aware of bullies and try to help where I can. I just can't stand when people get picked on.
Anywho, I suggest you take some time to look at this question or at least allow it to come up in your next encounters. Awareness is key and then we must apply what we’ve learned.
And of course, none of this could be true, and feel free to disregard this whole idea! 😜. It’ll either resonate or it won’t. You decide my friend.
With love,
K 💛
