What can you do. Not why has this happened?
Hello wonderful friend!
In any challenge that crosses your path, you naturally want the answer so you can fix it. So you take the time to ponder why is this so?
A challenge presents an opportunity. Not for you to give energy for who is to blame, but for how can I change?
If you’re in charge of you, who then, is responsible for your feelings? You are. Just as I am responsible for mine. Responsible: having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for (the self). (I added the self).
My mind and my story affect how I feel. This is the same for you. Any lower level emotion (fear, shame, anger, apathy) is an indicator that you’ve drifted from the light. So you can stay in the dark, or you could turn on the light.
If your challenge is stuffed into the palm of your clenched fist, you hold the problem. Open it up. What do you find? Now ask yourself - what can I do? Not why has this happened. We have a tendency to blame and that’s the moment we lose our power. This, although often true, (if they would change, then I’d feel better) is not your path to freedom because you can’t control it.
The pain then, is in the space between the levels of darkness and the light (joy, love, peace). Hope has less pain than despair for example.
When I find myself in the dark, I’ve noticed what really helps is to remind myself that I don’t have any lack. That I have everything already. It’s not a big stretch, because standing back a bit provides me with the truth. There is much more goodness than this moment of darkness.
Then I feel the pain and say thank you. There is something here for me to look into. Where do I need to do better? I’ll get another chance, whether it’s this particular circumstance or another. These thoughts bring me back into the light and I begin to feel powerful again (happy, optimistic) without the circumstance even changing.
This isn’t about ignoring the problem, it’s about elevating yourself - despite your circumstance.
And when you ask yourself what can I do? Actually create some solutions so you can see how powerful you are. I just suggest getting back into the light before you brainstorm some new ways to behave/respond.
You’ll feel your power when you realize your peace does not have to come from everything being perfect. We can make things complicated, or simple.
Feel the pain
Turn it into pleasure. Say thank you. There is an opportunity to evolve here.
