Is being sensitive a good thing?

Hello hello!

How well do you know yourself? I know myself pretty darn well. In fact, I could write a manual on me. What I enjoy, what turns me on, what hurts me, what I’m scared of, what excites me etc.

Here’s what I’m learning about being sensitive. I’d define it as being easily hurt or irritated.

For me, there are 2 reasons for this. The first is the tale as old as time - my time of the month. Not every month, but lately it seems this way. I don’t love using this as my excuse, but it’s true. And most women (and men who love them), know this.

The second reason I can indulge in this sensitivity is when there’s something unacknowledged not going right in my life. When I’m sensitive and can’t blame my period coming, something inside me is not ok.

And it sneaks up on me, usually in the form of my reactions. My mom will sometimes say to me what’s the big deal, you’re sure quick to react. Gotta love her. She’s right about a lot of things.

I’ve noticed that when I’m cruising at 9/10 in my buckets (mental, emotional, spiritual, physical) I have thick skin and joy easily abounds. Not much can take me down. Here, I feel powerful. I’m in control, send others love, don’t need to fix, open, cheerful, easy to be around. I can still pretend at a 7, but when you’re authentic, even a 7 gets your attention. It just doesn’t feel as good.

What to do? Pay attention to how you feel. If I’m agitated, I go down my list of questions:

• How did I sleep? Am I tired?

• Am I hungry?

• Did I meditate?

• Is there a relationship fracture that needs attention?

• Do I feel connected to my people, my source?

• Have I exercised or been outdoors?

• Have I been learning and feel inspired?

• Do I need to put more effort into my work?

Once I figure out what is lacking, it’s a pretty easy fix. And you can see it has everything to do with me, my effort and all within my control.

Mindset matters also. How are you looking at things? If it’s negative, you’ll find more problems. This also has a lot to do with your ‘setpoint.’ If you are used to living at an 8, it might take until you feel like a 5 or 6 to make a change or look at it. If you are a 5 typically, things might have to get really bad before you notice you might be the problem. (Well, not you exactly, but how you’re living).

I guess that’s my point. Your sensitivity is about you. And it’s not up to other people to have to walk around on egg shells because they don’t know what’s going to come out of you.

It’s also ok to be sensitive. Just know how to handle it. We honor it, we are kind to ourselves and learn how to be with it. Share with your loved ones how you’re feeling so they will understand. Maybe you’ll even get more hugs and kindness.

Everything we experience has a message in it.

Give yourself the attention you need.

All my love,

K 💛