If there’s someone bugging you - that’s your ego. That’s you thinking a situation should be the way you want it to be.

Challenges in forgiveness arise when we think someone should change so we can feel better. But this is exactly when we lose our power. That’s what feels terrible.

Also, we fear that in forgiving, we are condoning the behavior, which is not the case. We forgive to free ourselves, not them. When we hold someone in contempt we are not releasing the energy that is keeping us stuck.