Does learning ever confuse you?

Well hello there,

I have to be honest with you. I am confused right now. With so much great information out there, I am caught between 2 theories:

1. The 5 love languages - receive from your partner what you need to feel loved.

2. You shouldn’t ‘need’ anything from anyone, to be ok.

I can see the benefit of both. Can I just accept what is given to me and be grateful? No one is perfect.

Michael Singer teaches about theory #2 - The reason we want others to change is because we aren’t ok inside. So we look to others to make us feel better. (This is disempowering, because we are relying on another person to feel good, which is actually our responsibility).

I can steadily remain in a happy and peaceful place no matter:

• What the weather is like

• How the traffic is

• That my kitchen faucet needs replacing

• The status of my bank account

• Where anyone else is on their journey

• My age/looks

I don’t ‘need’ any of these things to be a certain way. Life happens and I handle what I can. Simple.

Can I actually get to a place where I have no needs? Especially from a romantic partner?

With romantic love I sometimes feel crazy. Do you ever feel like this? I’m thinking the ladies might relate more to this… but, maybe not?

I guess my questions to you are:

Can you be ok without your primary love language being met?
Can you be ok without needing anything from your partner?

I’d appreciate hearing from you. This one really has me stumped.

Maybe a better question would be, what is your biggest challenge in your relationship?

With love,
K 💛