Hey there,
If there is something gnawing at your heart, I want to encourage you to deal with it. I believe there will be a time you’ll have to make peace with things at some point - in life or in death.
Since there are no guarantees for another day, would you feel guilt, shame or remorse if someone you love died tomorrow? If so, please make amends. Now, I didn’t ask if you would feel grief or sadness. Of course you would.
Say what you have to say. Foregive, repair, apologize, make amends. Take some time here. Think about all of the people you care about. Don’t assume they should ‘just know’ how you feel. This is the difference between ego (fear) and spirit (love).
Sometimes you get the time before a loved one passes to say what needs to be said. Sometimes not. If you aren’t good at sharing your emotions, I understand, not many are. It can be uncomfortable. But I promise you, it’s worth the investment to try because regret and doing this after without them is much more painful.
Here are 2 examples, to appreciate someone you love who you haven’t told for a while:
Dear _____,
You matter so much to me. If our time together should ever end, please know I love you and you make my life better. For now and forever, I’m grateful for you. Xoxo.
-or-
Dear _____,
I don’t know where the love between us has gone. I know there is a hurt somewhere deep inside and my wish is that it gets healed. I love you, yet I know I haven’t always loved you right. Can we talk about this sometime?
If there is someone who you have already lost and wished you would have said more while they were here, you still can. In a quiet moment, close your eyes and connect to them in your heart. Say what you need to say. It doesn’t need to be out loud.
Sometimes we get so busy in our day to day we don’t stop to consider what has brought us the most joy. It’s the people we love who matter. Let them know. Maybe it’ll inspire them to do the same.
I believe when our relationships are right and good, we sleep better at night. And we all need that.
If you have a relationship that’s not so good, it might be time to change that. You decide.
All my love and support,
K 💛
